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Wednesday, October 25, 2006

A floater's dillema

So. Stepsis no. 1 has gotten engaged with the accountant. The same ignorant fool whose parents are Malaysian and asked me if we celebrated Christmas in Malaysia. The same one who dislikes 'all things non-British'. And was of the opinon that all chinese people has two names - one of them being fake, asked me if my name was fake.

(yes, the same one that I always want to beat up - is officially joining the dysfunctional family)

This has strangely enough, caused a big uproar between Bacon and me over the weekend. I am of the opinion that he should still know his roots - his parents should educate him on his roots, and not just embrace all englishness and leave it at that. They should teach him about malaysia and how they grew up, his relatives who visit every year should educate him on the cultural differences that is from Malaysia vs. freezing england. This man, I believe, is experiencing an identity crisis, therefore chose to just embrace all englishness and nothing else.

Bacon, in a sudden streak of dick-headedness , thinks it shouldn't matter, because this pseudo Malaysian Chinese has an ENGLISH PASSPORT, so he is BRITISH, so it is ok to NOT know his roots and just INTERGRATE as a BRITISH. I told Bacon that it's ok for him to think that way - he can trace 4-5 generations back in this same square kilometer of land. His stupid argument is because he might have swedish/norwegian roots stretching from eons ago (as in possibly 10 generations back!), but he is BRITISH therefore he is ENGLISH.

No, it is NOT ok to know where you are from. Because you will NOT know where you are going.History is the most important lesson there is.

After a tiring hour of shouting match between packing up the house, I just told him to wankoff. I don't know. Maybe it's me,thinking that it's important that everyone know where they are from. I do not want my children growing up thinking that being english is all there is to the world - that the world revolves around them. I know Bacon being his nationalistic self is very into supporting England and all that shit - if you've not seen that sort of people,just pop into the nearest English pub during and England footy game.

I am frankly confused as to what does the future bring to my children. Bacon is arguing that if we ever have children they should identify themselves as ENGLISH but realizing that their mother is not (I-dont-want-a-british-passport-i-don-care!) , and understanding where they come from. Bacon is torn between super supporting his England and trying but failing to understand what it is to be a floater between cultures. I don't think he'll ever understand; his roots are so embedded in England, he'll always know that this is where he belong - and not have the feeling of never really belonging anywhere but being proud of it.


Blogger mooiness said...

In a way he is right - your children will be first and foremost English but it doesn't mean that they have to be ashamed of their cultural heritage which is a mix of Chinese-Malaysian and English. Your future step-bro-in-law is a self-loather and he's not even a halfie!

I say - your children should embrace all parts of you both. Why stick to the one culture when you got another side to enrich your lives with, right? We should feel sorry for those who are insular because they never get to experience the richness of it all.

10/25/2006 11:49:00 AM  
Blogger sourrain said...


I've never thought about it that way - I am about to gain a stepbrotherinlaw!

My point is, if I was the man, and we lived in KL, and my kids were born Malaysian - Will that make them first and foremost MALAYSIAN? If living in England means having to give up the Malaysian identity and potentially produce children with a bad case of identity crisis, I might consider moving to siberia instead - oh, will that then make them siberians then?

That was what I meant..to know yourself is to love yourself.I refuse to reproduce in a world where you have a choice to embrace one identity only.

I do feel sorry for the stepbrotherinlawtobe. It is a sad world to grow up consisting wholly of Malaysian chinese blood but pretending to be white.

10/25/2006 12:06:00 PM  
Anonymous dreymer said...

I think people tend to mix up nationality and ethnicity.

Anyways, bro-in-law sounds ignorant. Cross him off the Christmas list. Yeah!

10/25/2006 03:21:00 PM  
Blogger sourrain said...

dreybee - I am disallowed to cross him off,but will probably make like 2005 - a petaling street RM10 watch and a box containing 5 sweets.And a bottle of chilli oil.

No, I wasn't kidding re: xmas presents.

not very nice related to me, is it now?

10/25/2006 04:38:00 PM  

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